Who Are You Without Your Title?

On Identity, Belonging, and Coming Home to Yourself. Through embodiment, identity healing, somatic integration and embodied, conscious dance.

Who Are You Without Your Title?

On Identity, Belonging, and Coming Home to Yourself

If your identity has been shaped from the expectation of others… then your true self is still waiting in the wings..

The Question That Changes Everything

Who would you be without your title?

Without your credentials, your job role, your reputation as the one who “has it all together”?

Would you feel liberated?

The slow relief of not having to wear any mask or alter persona?

Or somewhat lost and uncertain?
Unsteady as if the ground has been ripped from beneath you?

Perhaps you might even feel a quiet panic bubbling beneath the surface?

For many of us—especially those of us in demanding roles —our identity becomes so deeply entangled with what we do, how we perform, and who we’re expected to be.

A Personal Story of Identity + Belonging

If I grew up my whole life feeling I was different, that I didn't belong, then it’s inevitable - I had abandoned myself.

I was born in England to Chinese parents, raised in two very different worlds.

At school, I looked different—and was reminded of it daily.
At home, I entered another world: Chinese opera playing in the background, a different language, different values, different food.

The tension between these two worlds was confusing.
Was I supposed to be the rebellious British teen?
Or the dutiful daughter upholding family honour and expectation?

So I became a high-achiever.
An A-grade student.
A people-pleaser.

But in all of that performing… I had slowly detached from myself.

And in having my head buried in books, I left school somewhat bereft of social skills.

My rebellion came later, leaving my ‘glamourous’ job in a film company and I found identity in being a traveller. A nomad. A free spirit.
It felt expansive… but it also let me avoid deeper purpose. And moving around meant that I didn’t need to face myself.
I was allowed to ‘float.’

The Glossy Life That Never Feels Quite Real

When you don’t feel like you belong…in effect you become cut off from your body, there is a withdrawal..

Because in belonging there is an expansion, a heart opening. If you’re not fully plugged into life, then you are effectively not plugged into yourself. You become disconnected.

And also, just like Instagram, everyone seems to have it all sorted. A beautiful shiny life. But we all know that Instagram has many filters to pretty things up.

When we take off our own clouded filters that prevent us from seeing clearly, the world changes.

When we let ourselves feel, when we stop performing, when we come home to ourselves—something amazing happens:

You exhale.
Your nervous system sighs in relief.
And you realise...

"Oh. I’m actually okay. I’m not better or worse than anyone else. I’m just me. And that is enough."

You need to feel to heal..

When you give yourself permission to truly feel, it also means that you can see with a clearer lens. In becoming more aware of our own bodily sensations and feelings, we also become more attuned to the emotional landscape of others.

The joy and exhilaration of life doesn’t come from avoiding pain.
In reality, these rich emotions come from meeting its opposite.

Life is polarity.
From learning the language of your body, you can reclaim the parts of you that were silenced, exiled, or shamed. And in opening to your emotions you can also find forgiveness, gratitude and a new trust in yourself.

I have had my fair share of strife and challenges, and it is now that I can truly embrace these difficulties, grateful for the lessons.

And it makes me infinitely more resourced to hold compassionate and safe spaces for clients.

Where Do You Belong?

I made a little video about this a while ago - you can click on the picture to view it

"Where do you feel you belong in the world?"

It’s a big one. And many people don’t have an answer.
When you don’t know... you feel it in your body.

Or rather—you don’t feel. You cut off.

You might notice:

A hollow emptiness in your chest
A quiet sense of numbness
The urge to self-medicate or stay busy
A subtle but constant disconnection from joy, clarity, or purpose

The first point of healing?
Coming back home to the body. To its living, breathing, sweaty aliveness that means we are human, beneath the labels.

The second?
To move. To dance.
To let your body speak the truth you may not yet have words for.

This Is the Work I Do

I support visionary humans—therapists, creatives, coaches, and soul-led leaders—who are standing at a threshold:

Between who they were and who they’re becoming
Between outer success and inner disconnection
Between performing a role… and becoming their real, embodied self

We do this gently. Through movement. Breath. Stillness. Witnessing.
So your body can release old patterns, and integrate what’s real.

If You're Ready to Come Home to Yourself…

If you're in that tender space between identities—if your title, your role, or your “persona” no longer feels like home—
I’d love to support you.

I have a few 1:1 somatic coaching spaces open this summer.

Let’s walk the path together—from disconnection to deep embodiment.
From questioning to clarity.
From fragmented… to whole.

Ready to return to yourself?
Reach out and connect on here, or through my social media channels.

It would be my honour to hold space for your becoming.

Categories: : ancestors, connection, embodiment, somatics